5 Ways to Make New Years Resolutions More Achievable and Less Intimidating

2025 is nearly here, and with it comes a larger conversation about goals, lifestyle changes, and “what ifs.” It can feel like a bombardment of good intentions as friends, apps, and our brains encourage us to implement all of the life decisions we’ve been mulling over in the last months.

If you’ve set resolutions before, you may know they aren’t always easy to maintain for 365 days. Here are a few ways to be selective about what you focus on in the new year. We hope whatever routines you choose bring fulfillment and health, no matter what shape they take.

Stop Comparisons

It’s human nature to compare ourselves to others, but it’s usually not helpful. Expecting your physical, mental, or lifestyle transformation to look identical to a friend, family member, celebrity, or internet stranger sets you up for failure. There’s nothing wrong with gathering ideas, but allow yourself to transform in a way that suits your unique needs. As social media fills up with resolution lists and new workout techniques, try not to buy into any declaration as the perfect fix.

Be Specific

Don’t fall into the trap of giant, vague goals. “Going to the gym” or “eating healthy” can mean a million different things. Want a better workout routine? Consider the activities you find joy in — not the ones that make you dread your weekly workouts. Looking to stock your kitchen with produce? Pick fruits and veggies you know you like so you don’t pay for a salad kit you’ll never open. Health is a very personal topic and means something different to each person or family. Define what exactly you want to achieve by approaching these changes, consult with your physician, and personalize your expectations and experience to fit your unique wishes. 

Be Realistic

It’s okay to set goals that are easy to achieve! It actually may be the most helpful choice. For example, if you’re a working mom, deciding to hit the gym for an hour a day probably isn’t realistic. Your goals shouldn’t force you to abandon your current routines, let alone uproot the tasks and obligations that are top of your list. Adjust your goals to fit into your routines. You’re more likely to follow a small pattern adjustment. Plus, you’re less likely to get frustrated with yourself when you’re able to reach those goals. 

Consider Accountability

Sometimes, what you really need is a team. Find a few trusted friends to offer support, and suggestions, and cheer you on. As you do the same for them, you may find a little more energy to keep you going. If nothing else, hopefully, you can create a group chat or coffee talk group with positive support for each other. 

Be Gentle on Yourself

If you find yourself removing a goal from your list, let it go with confidence. The point of setting New Year's resolutions is making a positive impact in your life. When you notice something bringing more stress than fulfillment, it’s okay to dismiss it. Remember that reshaping who you are on New Year's Day is a construct. You can end routines, and turn to new chapters, at any time of the year. Find strength and confidence in deciding what is best for you — no matter what standards you set for yourself as the clock strikes midnight. 

We at Chicago Center for Behavioral Health wish you a very happy holiday season, and a joyful 2025.